It’s hard to believe three months ago today my son Bryan was killed, which drafted my family and myself into the fraternity/sorority that no one wants to join, the loss of a loved one.
Gilbert and Jean Shea joined our group Sunday after the loss of their daughter Becky, after speaking with Gilbert on the phone yesterday, I could see the similarities our group shares.
Sleeping throughout the night is a luxury you lose, as well as your appetite, and walking in circles is also a trait we share after a death in the family. Many of you probably think I mean we stand in one spot and walk around and around, this is not actually what occurs. After losing a loved one, we tend to attempt to keep ourselves busy, for myself this meant making a list of things I want to take care of at home. Three months ago I would start on one of my tasks, only to decide to do one of the other high priority items instead. But, once prepared to take care of task number two, I would again have a change of heart and move on to a third project, hence walking in circles.
At our home we have given away our pool table that greeted friends and family entering our abode, painted one of the bedrooms, and will probably repaint the entire house in the very near future. Our mantle has been transformed into a shrine with pictures and belongings of Bryan’s as a daily reminder of him. If the Los Angeles Times were to offer a buyout for the Operations Department, I will be the first to enlist as another buyout candidate, not because of the things going on in the workplace, just to change my life.
And in closing, may I remind all of you that don’t know what to say or how to express condolences to friends and colleagues that have suffered a loss; give the person a hug, it means a lot when you don’t have the words to say, and your message comes through loud and clear.
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Let me know if there's anything you need, Ed.
And condolences to Gilbert & Jean Shea.
How I wish I had the words to help your poor heart heal. The only thing I can promise is that someday the pain you feel today will become bearable.
As always, I'm here if you need me. Just call me anytime.
You're in my prayers always,
Jade
Having lost my father, husband and two siblings in my lifetime was sheer horror. So I can only imagine the 'twilight zone' you must be in after losing your precious son!
Take this post as a virtual BEAR HUG, and I'll pray that it will provide you with the thought that someone truly cares and empathize with your situation.
I have a broad shoulder and it's available if/when you may need it.
Sooner or later you'll need to let it all out and that's when your real friends will lift you up.
Sending prayers,
Nubia
Great posting Ed! I admire how open you about your feelings.. It really helps others that have been through the same. It was so nice meeting you yesterday. You are in my thoughts and prayers!
I know we haven't talked for a while because I'm going through a difficult time but I just wanted to say you're a great guy and as always, please call me anytime you'd like.
- AP
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